Comfortable silence is possible with somebody we know rather good. But if you just met each other and already don't know what to talk about it's a bad sign in my opinion So we yak about different things and get more information about our new acquaintance and then may be we'll find a topic which will be interesting for both of us. Yaking isn't too bad this way

But why don't we like silence? May be we're afraid to seem boring to our unterlocutor. Actually we just think too much about impression we make on the people around us — that's the reason of uncomfortable feeling )

wow! Pulp Fiction! i've watched it numerous times. this is really the picture of genius.

this is maybe the most well-known episode but my favourite one is where Vincent and Jules are carrying a guy in the car and Vincent shoots him. don't know why but i find it very funny.

loooolll I'd like this question, good idea

I belong to that kind of people who hate uncomfortable silence. It's so nasty situations! Especially it happens when you talk with strangers or people you've just met. So you don't know thees people, you have no idea what to talk about. And you start to yak about bullshit to escape an uncomfortable silence. Frankly speaking, I use this method every time in order to feel comfortable as my partner is keeping silece.

I absolutely agree with saying that you feel free only in the company with somebody really special when you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably share a silence."

It seems very stupid situation when you gust sit and say nothing to each other.The first minutes of contact with a stranger or people you've just met making you yak about bullshit.

Hello!

I often do it...But I'm always shame for that. Francly, I don't know, what I can do in this situation. May be, it's an indication of self-uncertainly, isn't it?

In fact, to ayk about bullshit it's not the best way in such events. I think, it'll be better, if you ask your partner what is really interested for him/her. Or to offer your friend to choose a topic of your talking.

The worst way in this situation, when you begin  interested your cellphone. But it means only one thing — you 're a looser and you want to communicate with nobody!

I can write some more, but, I'm afraid, it'll be like a bullshit

Comfortable silences, uncomfortable silences.

It's manifestation of politeness. You try to find something that you can talk about on first meeting. We want to impress people. We want he/she will be interested in you. Sometimes nothing works out and we yak about bullshit.

I think that silence with my friends, people that I know long time could be comfortable. But it looks stupid when you don't speak to your new contact. For example I hardly ever start to talk. Often I just answer the question. I know I have to solve this problem. Who knows, maybe one day I'll meet someone who I should talk to first.

And I wanna see what does he say after she came back.

Pulp Fiction it is wonderfull movie. I can watch this more and more I mean Tarantino could don't filmed other movies after Pulp Fiction and we would remember he. Though «Reservoir dogs» and «Kill Bill» let will leave

I don't know for what I love this film more than others. Did actors play well? Yes. He did. Did it have interesting the subject course? Yes. It did. But this film except all it that should have any film has also mood. What is such that does its cult.

If you like this movie and like word «fuck» then you always will able to watch short fuck-version of this movie https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sxcei2eOCMo

If you can't follow subject courses of this film can use given to this iconographic http://johnhutchings.posterous.com/pulp-fiction-chronology-terrible-infographic

I did error: INFOgraphic instead of ICONograph.

Sorry.

very interestig moment. I'm don't looking this movie, on I want to see always. I like John Travolta, and looking fo him very nise for me. well, it's my first cooment, when I write without google translet and dictionary book. I think that I have very mach error... do not judge stora)) thanks)

What a question! There is something to think about/ It's so easy and difficult at the same time.

And yet, indeed we yak with unfamiliar people and if happens a pause, we feel ourselves uncomfortable. Maybe we are afraid to be dull or uncommunicative and fixate on what makes an impression.

And only with close friends comfortable silence is possible and this silence can be louder than any words!

o, that is really a good question! People always feel uncomfortable when they have to stay in silence even for some minutes and with strangers but some wise people say that when you are with a friend it's fine even to be silent. And i do agree with that. Actually firstly, when people meet for the first time they have to discuss something and if they are quite different it's hard to find a topic. Maybe, it only seems to us sometimes and we all feel this uncomfortable silence firstly. ALso it depends on your temper, if you are introverted man silence is like a glass of water for you when you are thirsty. And if you are very sociable and extroverted person, you can't stay in silence for a long time, it's getting boring.

I have two suggestions to why people try to avoid pauses in conversation.

Some say it´s typical for a modern person to be afraid to stay alone, face-to-face with oneself. Because this silence shatters our illusions, for example our feeling of being significant. It can be worsened by some characteristic features of modern world. We are surrounded by constant noises — chatter of people, humming of computers, rumble of cars etc. At home there's always a TV on, on the street we have music in our earphones. We are not used to silence. 

On the other hand, phycologists say that a long pause upsets the social balance and ruins the process of self-assertion. You don't feel like you can control situation anymore. To my mind there can be no certain answer to this question.

To: Murat

You are making great progress! Well done!

 This is not easy question.The best of all when you unexpectadly met a pleasant stranger will be good beggining just a smile or a complement.If we want to know better each other and for example go to a cafe we as a rule start talking about common things — sports.travels,weather,music and ets.Sometimes we can yak about bullshit in order that people do not think you are disinterested person.Why we do that?I think we always want to do pretty impression to people therefore we try be communicatine, outgoing,interesting,clever and attractive,having yourself intentions for that.But if you  went in a cafe with really special friends and we want just relax,the silence would be naturally and comfortably,cause you have not any intentions.

First I scrupled to keep quiet in talk too. Because you show yourself unintelligent, incommunicative, not located to collocutor. You offend his.

But afterwards my friend has said me: friends are people who can keep quiet together and like it.

This has overwinded my life. And now I not to scruple to keep quiet. All time to talk impossible, since person will grow old to listen and speak. Sometimes a silence is a gold or just need simple thing.

People strain too often. They want to make good impression upon the interlocutor. There is only one thought in their head: «I should tell something clever». As a result the mind doesn't take out cargo of responsibility, it refuses to submit. People should relax simply, they should enjoy dialogue. After that the theme for conversation will appear itself. And the main thing — they shouldn't copy another's thoughts and speeches, they should improvise.

PEOPLE TRY TO KEEP UP A CONVERSATION BECAUSE THEY FEEL THAT IT IS IMPOLITE TO KEEP SILENCE AND IT WOULD MUCH BETTER FOR BOTH TO HAVE A TALK. IT`S A NATURAL DESIRE TO ESCAPE  UNCOMFORTABLE SILENCE , I THINK. WHETHER A CONVERSATION IS INTELLIGENT OR A BULLSHIT DEPENDS ON PEOPLE.

People hate uncomfortable silence, because they think they can seem dumb or stupid to each other. And I think, people yak about bullshit when the have no similar interests, when they can't find points of contact. They can't say each other the truth at once «I don't like you. We have nothing in common». So it is the way to spend the rest of the date)))

I think, each of us can remember  similiar situations, when one begins yaking about bullshit. And afterwards i can not explain to myself what has happened =). I  noticed that it occured typically for me before  during the conversation with a person, whom I liked or who was very important to me. It is normal, when one tries to find points of contact, especially with strangers.Obviously the person hates uncomfortable silence and tries to keep up appearances in order to to be boring. But i m sure in these moments he/she is very real without limits and restricktions. It clears the air in conversations because it can cause a smile and usually the next part of conversation will continues more constructive.

In my point of view, people try to avoid any uncomfortable silences during some conversation because it is easy to talk about something than think what to say. This is quite philosophic question, also it could be so many answers. I should mention that when you do not mind what other people thinking about you, silence is not scary you.

We feel it's necessary cause it's really necessary) If you want to make friends with somebody or just stop this uncomfortable silence, you need to say something. Talk about yourself to make her feel secure, or speak in jest to diffuse a situation. Maybe you have anything to do with her. Of course it's possible that you will look an absolute tit 

Anyhow, it's better to try than be silent.

Good day.

I think many believe that this more like a man show up smarter. And the interesting people, the more you want to fill the silence. But it often turns out that essentially have nothing to say, and we begin to understand that the bear. Sometimes easier to just shut up.

Most pleasant to be with people, even if not familiar, that silence is not clever. But such people are rare. I seldom met such.

AS for me, I don't speak when I have no interesting topic or when I have no mood for  a chatter. I don't care if the silence appears. But sometimes I can feel discomfort in silence if I like the person with whom I am, but I don't know him well. So I haven't enough topics to talk about, but in the same time I don't want to yak about bullshit.

Maybe the main reason of why people don't like the silence because the don't want their partner was bored or they don't want seem boring

I like criminal movie! and the books about criminal people too. Today I finished «Malavita» by Tonino Benacquista — it's great book. So... about uncomfortable silence. In the first time, on the first meeting it's inevitably, I think. It's impossible just between soul mates. In such situation you can keep silent, look at the eyes straight and doing many other things & you won't feel uncomfortable.

From my point of view clever people prefer to keep silent than to talk about bullshit. To avoid uncomfortable awkwardness they find some neutral topics to speak about — travelling, jobs, hobbies, ask about families, weather, etc,,and instead of tallking nonsense they invent smart, unconventional, uncommon questions.

To: Alla

Thank you, that was a great mini-course on small talks and socialization skills

People often yak about bullshit speaking with somebody they do not now very well. Maybe they are not so self-confident and are afraid to seem boring and uninteresting, i also do not like this uncomfortable silence. As for me, «yaking about bullshit» sometimes means "speaking about uninteresting, perfunktory things like «wheather and nature». Only with my friends i can keep silens whithout beeing afraid of making a bad impression

I don't thihk so at all! If persen which I communicate, very interesting for me that I always can to tall all topic and uncomfotable silences will not have. If uncomfortable silences appeared so this is not my man.

Watched this movie 3 month ago. Didn't like it. Totally dunno why it is in list of great movies. Anyways. About the question. This concerns for people who just met. So it is your first date. And you want to know each other better. Guys dont like this silence because they don't want to be unconfident. And girls always shy when this happens. So you talk whatever you like. Ask and anser the questions. And after 1-2 month dating you can shut up and enjoy the silence.

Everyone of us was in such situationswhen he pr she had to yak about bullshit. It happens when we have to speak with people we know but don't like. We try to find a topic to chat but all in vain, uncomfortable silence.

But there are another words in this episode «comfortably share a silence.» It's so good if there is such person in your life to sit and be silent together.

Sorry but I don't like such peoples. As for me «keep silent if to you nothing to say». Honestly speaking I don't know why we do it But I agree with Elisabeth and I think that she knows english on the level with you=) sorry...

Thank you, Marat, for this film. I think if you don't know what clever say during the serious conversation, the best thing is to keep the silence. If we talking about easy dialog, try ask the questions! Everybody can be usefull for you!

Dear u-can!

When we meet each other at first time we often began to yak about bullshit because of diffidence. We don’t know a man so we cannot find appropriate words to communicate with him or her. And also we fear that our new acquaintance would think us to unsociable or uninteresting. To avoid uncomfortable silence we begin to act in unusual way and the situation become even worse. So we begin to talk rubbish even more in order to cover our timidity.

best regards,

As known the silence is gold))  but also silence could be uncomfortable in some situations (like if you met someone special and you want to tell something but all you're doing is talking bunkum), and it's seems like you're dumb, because you have nothing to tell.  It could be really difficult to keep the ball rolling...

I really think that people need to keep silence more in order to control what they are saying. Even in uncomfortable situations. It's much better to think your words through, because when you're on emotions you can say the things you didn't mean. But when you're with a person you like just be yourself and relax))